The Power of Vulnerability: 4 Things This Answer To ‘ What’s up? ‘ Taught Me About Life 0 33

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It was a friday morning at work and the atmosphere was filled with the joy of knowing we were finally a blink away from the weekend. I had my cup of coffee, made my ritual greetings and came accross Xander as I made my way to the weight loss station (poopoo box). When I asked him how he was doing, nothing prepared me for his response. It wasn’t his usual “doing good brother!” but rather one that made me slow down and walk to him, not past him. For once. Something in his answer grabbed my soul by the belt.

 

Vulnerability.

 

To men, vulnerability is a magnet. We fly to the rescue of women in need, to people under oppression and our stomachs boil in the presence of injustice. So I approached Xander. “All is not well brother”, he told me, before describing what was wrong in his life at the moment. He was blatantly honest and I couldn’t believe that as a tough guy, he wasn’t afraid of appearing weak before me. I thought as he spoke and we went on to successfully analyse possible solutions to his predicament together. Even as I walked away, I couldn’t stop searching my mind for additional ways to help.
Later that day, this event got me thinking and here is what I learned.

 

1. People Crave To Do Good

Have you ever noticed the tingles in your stomach when you drop a coin in a beggar’s plate or when you open the door to someone? Doing good is a unique experience. The fact that the feeling from it cannot be bought is the reason why we value it and are intrinsically addicted to it. Even the hardest criminals feel good about doing good. By opening up about his issues, my friend unconsciously gave me the opportunity to do good and I couldn’t resist. Now in your case, what’s to say the solution to the problem you’re in isn’t laying in the mind or resources of someone you know? I challenge you to give people the opportunity to do good.

 

2. To Receive, Give

Just like apples are fruit to apple seeds, my complete openness with regards to helping my friend was the result of his openness about his issue. How else could I have helped if I didn’t have all the cards in my hands? Very often we fail at relationships because we do not put in our partner’s hands all the tools required to succeed. We admit one thing but willingly omit another, and then blame them for not coming up with appropriate solutions. We do the same to our assistants and heck, even to our doctors! Rather than expecting people in our lives to fail us, let’s commit to giving them an honest chance to succeed.

 

3. See The People In Your Life As What You Would Want Them To Be

Unless my friend saw me as good, he would not have exposed his vulnerability. And because he did, I unconsciously mirrored his belief by actually being good. Ever noticed how a boyfriend would miraculously fix that appliance because you praised his dexterity? Or how a non-traditional wife would pull recipes out of nowhere because you consistently praised her cooking? As much as we become what we say, others become to us what we consistently believe of them. That is why we have to be careful of what we say of the people in your lives, regardless of how they may look on the outside. Words carry life.

 

[ Book suggestion: The 5 Love Languages ]
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4. Vulnerability Is The Currency For Human Connection

Vulnerability in its simplest terms is the potential for damage. To avoid damage, we fix areas of vulnerability. But what happens when for a reason or another, those areas of vulnerability in our lives cannot be fixed? We hide them. They become secrets. And to who would you tell your secrets? Chances are, it’s to someone you trust.

 

Did you see that?

 

Vulnerability produces trust, trust leads to the exchange of secrets and this exchange creates lasting bonds. Loop closed. That is why if you look closely at the dearest people in your life, you will notice that your relationship has been or became so because of the  secrets you shared. A secret laugh that only you two shared, a secret tear only they saw, or the wretched you that only they ever got to live with.

 

Vulnerability is the currency for human connection and it accepts no substitute.
[ Book suggestion: Daring greatly ]

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21 Things Your Mind Wishes You Knew About Success 0 19

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You and I know this.

A journey of a thousand miles begins with a single step. -Lao Tzu

But what many people ignore is that the first step to success is in the mind. You see, a strong mind is why sometimes smaller boxers crush the big guys and why every now and then, a solopreneur comes along and knocks the comfort out of bigger firms.

But even then, no success can withstand the crippling of a poor mind.

That is why I wrote this article. To lay bare some of the secrets your mind wishes you knew to acquire, but most importantly stick with the wins you’ll gather along the way.

It is a fine melange of years of findings from 2 of psychology’s brightest minds, Daniel Kahneman & Dan Ariely, and of  some of the visionary entrepreneurs of our time.

To beat the best, learn from them. So here…

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21 Things Successful People Know About The Human Mind

1. You become what you think. Small thoughts create small men, great thoughts create great men.

2. 95% of your actions are ruled by your subconscious and the gate to your subconscious is what you listen to, see and say about yourself.

3. Everything you see was born in someone’s mind. Dreams precede greatness.

4. Once expanded, the mind never regains its original size. In other words, knowledge is never wasted.

5. Your outer world reflects your inner world. Your reality is only bounded by your vision.

6. Your mindset has room for one reality at a time. Happy or sad, rich or poor, but never two opposites. Make your choice. What do you want to focus on?

7. Lies are self-reinforcing. If you believe a conclusion to be true, you are most likely to believe the arguments that support it.

8. Unless you are skeptical about your intuitions, they will most likely lead you down the path of immediate gratification.

9. What you perceive, you easily believe. Even when it’s not true. So, always question your perceptions.

10. You are most likely 1 decision away from your greatest success.

11. Reciprocation triggers compliance. You are less likely to oppose the people who help you.

12. Repetition can drive any skill or information into your subconscious. Therefore, beware of the information you expose yourself to.

13. The mind loves patterns because they require little effort. Thus, use small changes to drive bigger changes and easy requests to introduce bigger ones.

14. The Halo effect will cause you to love a bad thing or hate a good one, depending on the first information you receive about them. Why? Patterns are easy on the brain. So if you wish to increase your chances of being accepted, always open with your strong suits.

15. Emotions accelerate conclusions. Reason slows them down. That’s why the greatest marketers sell feelings and the best speakers tell stories.

16. The most Plausible things are not the most Probable. The majority of the things you fear will never happen.

17. Small repeated wins have more motivating power than sparse wins of bigger value. If you wish to ever journey all the way to greatness, line your path with small victories.

18. The price for greater is what we currently hold. But since we fear loss more than we love gain, most dreams appear to be too expensive.

19. Pre-commitment is the simplest cure to procrastination.  Set every task as an engagement you cannot cancel.

20. Choices dilute efficiency. The fewer the exit plans, the more accurate the mind becomes.

21. Not all risk takers are successful, but all successful people are risk takers.

It would make my day if you could share this with one friend. If you can inspire one person, then you will soon inspire 2. Usually, that’s all it takes to start a movement.

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Inspirational Quote Cards: Pack 1 0 34

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There’s good news. Starting this month, we will be adding our own bricks to the walk of motivational quote cards around the web. Each one carefully crafted, edited to madness and kissed before laying it down.

We hope they warm the dreamer in you every time you see them and remind you of how insanely gifted and capable you are.

Since it’s only lonely at the top when you help no one else get there, we hope you’ll share them with the people in your circles. Stretch their minds. Challenge them to look again. And maybe, one of them might be inspired to walk this journey to greatness with you. One person.

Because you’re awesome,

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