Studying isn’t hard.
What’s difficult is taking the decision to do it and stick with it. Same with building your self esteem. The building part of it is a piece of cake, but the resistance to starting is the hard part.
But why start in the first place? Why should you build your self esteem? 2 reasons:
- Your outer world can only go as far as your inner world.
- Without self esteem, every obstacle in life will beat the resolve out of you.
You don’t want that.
Here is a very simple secret about the lifetime of your self esteem: The things outside of you (people & possessions) can only sustain it for so long. As a matter of fact, they can only provide an illusion of it.
But the things that will sustain it till kingdom come are those ones inside of you. They are the ones no one can mess with, the only ones you truly own.
It happens that the 2 ways to strengthen them are also the ways you can calm any fear.
- Through Knowledge –get more of it.
- Or Action –do more of it.
1. Acquire Knowledge
Investigate your emotions, pleasures & triggers. Keep a journal of the things you go through and study the patterns.
In what situations do certain things just seem to repeat themselves? What usually happens right before? How does your reaction change the final outcome?
The more you become aware of all that, the less people will be able to push your buttons.
Of The Challenges You Face:
Your brain cares more of how your challenges can kill you than how they can grow you. It’s built that way to protect you.
But what’s plausible isn’t always what’s probable. If it were, good singers would have the brightest careers, but they don’t. Most of the things you fear will never happen.
The best way to cement that into your brain and therefore drive out doubt, is to study the challenges you face.
– What are your options?
– What’s the worst that could happen?
– What’s the best that could happen?
– What could get you closer to the best outcome?
– Has anyone done it before? How? Why? Does their situation still apply? Why not?
“My people perish for lack of knowledge.” -God
Of Random Sh’tuff:
Study the secular stuff my friend. History, science, whatever. Look outside your comfort zones. Turn your procrastination hours into learning opportunities (don’t be shy, I know you have those).
The more you know, the less you babble when it’s your turn to speak. People pay attention to confidence.
2. Take Action
Practise makes permanent.
The things that are second nature to you right now are either the ones you’ve taught or practised for a good chunk of time.
The more you know, the more confident you become.
Another benefit of taking action when you feel low is that the more you walk into any situation, the more it reveals itself to you.
- The more you put you hand up, the less frightening leadership becomes.
- The more you stand your ground, the less scary people’s opinions become.
- The more you look people in the eye, comment on blogs or anything else, the easier it becomes.
But as with everything, start small.
A lack of self esteem is often just a lack of knowledge:
- of yourself
- or the challenges you face
But it’s nothing you can’t fix.
Rooting for you,
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